Please help!!! This is a serious issue. I asked my boyfriend of 4 years to get an HIV test and he declined.?

He is pressuring for me to have sex and when Iasked him to get a test he broke up with me instead. What does this mean?
Could he be hiding something from me? Why did he break up with me? Did he break up with me for good or is he just trying to get me to stop him from asking him?
I'd appreciate your guys feedback. I asked him because he has been sexually active before me with 5 girls as far as I know, possibly more and I am worried because of it. AND HE NEVER USED PROTECTION WITH THEM! What should i infer from all this? Should I just move on to someone who will provide reinsurance for me?

well you need to take care of your self. No one is worth the pain and sufferng of having hiv or any sexually transmitted disease. If he is not willing to be tested then I would just move on unless you can stay with him and not have sex. It sounds to me like all he wants is sex. If he can't get it from you then there is no reason to stay. Just take care of your body and don't do some thing you will regret later. THere are plenty of guys out there that will treat you right and will take any test to be with you and share the love.

you cant make him do something he is not ready to do

You are playing it way too safe. I get why your doing it but tell him to wear a condom. I wouldn't scare every guy off with asking him to get tested.

Maybe find a virgin.

Dont be with anyone who pressures you to do anything! that means they dont really care for you.

It sounds like he was just holding out for sex and your request was just to much for him and he decided to go and move on to someone easier.

I think you should leave him behind and move on.

if he wont talk bout it freely and breaks up with you when you try to talk about it tell him to get lost.youve been with him for 4 years and never had sex with him

Move on girl!!! Don't put yourself at risk. Keep your self respect. If he cares he'll come back and do what you asked

Dump the bastard!

he probably is hiding something from you and broke up with you cause he didnt want you to find out. Just talk to him about it.

secretly get a sample of his blood and go to the nearest testing center..you should find it out sooner if he's infected or not.. it's for your own good.

yes you shod girl he dosent like you or love you he is only using

He is probably not serious with you. If he cares for you, he would have gone for a test to calm your fears. If he has nothing to hide.
So might be a good time for you to move on and find some one else who really care about your concern.

if he won't take a test for you then you don't need to be giving in to him and he is not worth it..you are way too good for him...he is probably hiding something or just out of his mind that you would ask that of you..
Good Luck..!

You are too good for him!!!

If he has had sex with 5 girls and waited 4 years for you, to be honest, he probly has SOMETHING, but he may have broken up with you because he was offended by your request. Lets be real, men don't take things as seriously as we women do. But if he has stuck it out with you for four year, I doubt this break is permanent, but I would still insist on the test if you are worried. You only have one body to get you through this world, so don't take any chances.

If you ask your guy to get a HIV test and he declined then there is something wrong and if he broke up with you because of that then your better off without him cause you don't want to end up having sex with him and you getting HIV or something.

I think you should move on. After all he broke up with you because you asked him to take an HIV test. It seems like your a nice girl and hes not the right guy.

THERE IS A POSSIBILTY THAT HE HAS HIV... BASED ON WHAT YOU HAVE SAID. AND MAYBE HE IS AFRAID TO FIND THAT OUT TOO...

DEFINITELY. If he doesnt think enough of you to meet your request, than HE's the one with a problem, NOT you.
In answer to the pressure that he's applying to YOU....Let him know that you might agree to sex, once you SEE his test results. End of matter.

maybe is just scared of going to the doctor. just move on with someone else who actually uses protection and is willing to take a HIV test.

gently tell him why u are asking him to get the HIV TEST, and add that u dont think he has AIDS, its just something we just wanna make double sure of. Its all about safety. And hun please dont wait this long to ask him next time ok! & please dont have sex until u KNOW, make that clear-- & if he still wont take it then he's either hiding something or is not comfortable with himself to know and thats worriesome.

he doesnt seem to care about you or his own health dont give in if he deserves u and respects you and himself he needs to be tested

I'm not sure what it means for him to refuse the test. He may have been faithful to you while you've been dating and considers your asking him to mean you don't trust him. He also may be one of these people that thinks those kind of things only happen to 'someone' else, as if he alone were divinely protected. Or maybe he's actually afraid to take the test because of what it could mean.

In any case, I hope you won't consider having sexual relations with him unless he does take the test and bring you the results.

If he broke up with you for asking him to do this simple thing, something is not right. Why don't you just move on as normal, and see if he decides to come back to you and discuss it. He must care something about you to have spent 4 with you so I can't see him just walking away without an explanation.

Try to be patient and wait it out. I think that would indicate that you're serios - as you should be. Once you get it, you can't change your mind and your life will be pretty much over. Be smart and be safe.

You should have offered to take then test with him. Taking the test is hard enough when there is someone you love with you, imagine by yourself. He's scared of the outcome.

You should explain to him that you value your health and care about him, but since he has had unprotected sex, you want some reassurance that your health won't be jeopardized. There are other diseases that he should be tested for that could cause a variety of health problems for you. Some diseases such as chlamydia and HPV have no symptoms in men. Some forms of HPV can lead to cervical cancer if not detected early. If you have ever been sexually active, you should also be tested. These tests can be performed for males and females at most health departments. HIV testing is confidential so he shouldn't worry that anyone will find out that he has been tested. If he broke up with you because you asked him to be tested, then you are better off because he doesn't respect your feelings. I would rather not have sex with someone than end up with Herpes or some disease that will last a lifetime.

Life is to important to worry about if he is going to come back to you. you have the right to know and if he isnt going to do a little test that could protect you both then he is childess.EX: he may only have had two parnters, but how many did they have and so on. that number could grow to the hundreds. Everyone should be tested every 6-12 months. AIDS can take up to 10 years to show up in your system. Im in a long term relationship and have been in one for 6 yrs we both get tested every 8 months. You cant be to safe . No one is worth death. So you should ask them to be tested. Most towns and citys have FREE HIV/AIDS testing. so there are no reasons why you dont. Its not that you think your parnter has HIV/AIDS, but the fact of you dont know there parnters panter and so on.... Hope I could help..

i think you need to leave this guy alone because if he is not hiding anything from you he would go and get an HIV test. you better off finding yourself another boyfriend. if he doesn't have why not take the test.

girl if he never use protection what does that tell you about him.

you need to move on girl because HIV is a very serious thing. you could die. its not wroth it. move on there is more guys out there is not the only one.

open your eyes girl if hes not using protection that alone should tell you what kind of guy he is a nasty one. your life just be more important that anything especially a guy. i don't know what he could have.

be safe girl make the right decision

protect your self that's important
he don't want to take test then you do it take test for you on good have unprotected sex with 5 different people a chance is very high not just HIV any other VD

If he gets angry when you ask him to get tested, it sounds like he's nervous that he might have something. Doesn't sound too good. Don't put yourself at risk. if he's been with 5 unprotected girls, it only takes 1. who knows who those 5 girls have been with and if they've all used protection with their partners, and if those partners have used protection. That multiples out to a large number of people who could have some kind of std. You can get std's through oral sex also, so it's always best for both persons to get regular checks before either of you get sexual with each other. Be safe, you don't have to put up with that. It's not at all weird for you to want to know that information, it's for your safety and security. To make it less awkward suggest that the both of you get tested. If you let him know that you are willing to do it, and not just him it might make the situation seem less confronting.

If he will not submit to a test for you then mark him as not fit to be with you.Its a common question now days and I wouldnt hesitate for a minute to get a test or ask a female to do it also.To be assured that all is well.Dont worry about why he did or didnt, go find someone that is in your same experience level and go from there and start enjoy life with protection.Best wishes............

look get over that p.o.s. if he cant get a simple test done to prove to you that he wants to be in a relationship with you, and he's had unproteced sex with 5 or more girls it's a good thing he droped you he probley has kids out there not paying childsupport. he's a p.o.s. go fined somebody who cares to do the test or what ever you want or need!