Should married people use condoms?

We had a seminar at school about the spreading and transmission of HIV and a member of the panel read a story about a woman that received HIV from her husband because of an extramarital affair that he had. He also knew he had it long before he told her. Another member of the panel concluded that it was the wife's fault because she should have been using condoms with her husband. In my opinion, I think that largest blow dealt was the extramarital affair in that two people without HIV who only have sex with each other will never get the virus through sexual transmission. Also, the couple may have been trying to have a child with which a condom would seriously interfere.

What are your thoughts? Should married people be using condoms unless trying to have children?

No. Marriage has to be based on trust. You go in to marriage knowing that you are in a monogamous (sp?) relationship. If you take the mentality of thinking you should use a condom "just in case", then the marriage is already doomed. You are already expecting to be cheated on. It is sad that a wife gets an STD from her husband, but it does happen!

yes they should use condoms... the only exception would be if they dont know each others STD/HIV status.

It depends if they are willing to take the risk or if like you said they are trying to have a childd

No, I dont think so unless like you were saying, they were not trying to have a child. People just need to learn to be faithful!! Especially people that have a commitment as serious as marriage.

Why they should ?

Well first of all before you get married you both get tested for any diseases so if your partner has a disease you will know it before you get married. It's up to the people to use a condom. Some people do it because they don't want to get pregnant yet!! Some women rather user Birth control!!

If they don't want a baby or if the other person has some sort of STD.

totally the fault of the one who cheated. if they suspected they wouldn't be faithful, you shouldn't be marrying them.

Well if you love each other enough to where you know neither of you will never cheat on each other the I think People who are married shouldn't have to use condoms.

Definitely! Otherwise they could spread infections to each other, get pregnant (Sometimes desired, sometimes not)... and then there's the fact that guys are *ahem* messier when they orgasm than women. And it smells DISGUSTING!

And I agree that the largest blow was the extramarital affair, but condoms are ALWAYS a good idea in conjunction with other birth control methods (People can still get pregnant on the pill).

Married people who are in a mutually faithful, stable relationship should not need condoms for any reason other than birth contol. And even then it is one of many birth control options. Ideally, we should feel comfortable enough to be honest with our partners about our sexual history and get tested for HIV on a regular basis if we are in a "high risk" group. Low risk groups should not worry too much about it.

hell no, and the wife was not wrong. it was the stud she marred , it was his falt. he should be shot

some people don't nessecarily want to have a child but when they find out the wife is pregnant they are still equally as happy so i don't think its fair that way.
But if they do not want a child etc then fair enough use a condom but other than that i don't see no reason to. First because they are husband and wife and should devour there love without a condom in the way (if they dont mind if they have a child and are ready for one etc).

Not to mention I heard of that story too and it is by FAR the man's fault and NOT the womans. How is the wife to know that her suppose to be loving caring husband would cheat on her AND get aids?? It's even illegal for that sort of thing. It's disgusting and it's wrong, she will never be able to have kids, she will have a bad name for herself if people do not know WHY she has AIIDS and also has to start her life again, trying to find someone who can deal being with someone who has AIDS.

yes.

Yes they should unless trying to conceive..

if you don't want to get pregnant, YES

if you do... then thats a definate NO