Psychologists please answer me??

Ok i'm in some serious paranoia here. I'm really stressed out (i'm getting married in a couple weeks...and my grandmother is really sick). I've found myself constantly worried about everything. Especially health. I worry about every little bump or itch me or my fiance have. He's got dry skin on his private area and i've been freaking out here lately thinking it may be herpes (but it cant be bc we've only been w/ each other). I got sick from eating too much cajun food and threw up and started thinking i may have HIV. I dont know what to do. I have OCD and its been really bad here lately. I cleaned the counters in the kitchen eight times yesterday bc i thought it still had germs. I dont like living this way. I hate worrying all the time. It's starting to really affect my health because now my bloodpressure is high and i dont know what to do. I hate worrying all the time about this and it's driving my fiance crazy as well. What do i do?

i'm not having second thoughts about the wedding. My relationship with my fiance is about the only thing in the world i dont worry about. We took mariage counseling. I just worry too much. Thank you all for your kind words.

In psychology, life is often measured in 'Stress-Units'. Which simply means that attached to situations in life are units of stress, and some higher than others. Some of the higher ranked stress-units are; moving, changing jobs, a serious illness, oh... and marriage! Life can also become especially challenging when we have to deal with multiple stress-units all at the same time.
The answer her is to concentrate on the things you can do something about... and let the other things take care of themselves. Like a pilot who looses control of a plane and it goes hurling towards the ground. He may worry about where it's going to hit, what it's going to hit, is he going to live or die, is he going to kill others...etc. But all he actually should be worried about... is getting control of the plane again!
You also, should simply be worried about gaining control of the plane. Here are some things that may help.
Get into helping plan the wedding. See what you can do to help with the details of the wedding. Get into what kind of flowers you're going to have and who is going to put them where they are supposed to be. What songs will be played and who is playing them. Get involved in things you can have some control over and start working on them. This will give you less time to be concerned about those things you don't have control of.
Ask yourself... "Is this something that I can do something about?" If not... let it go. You can see your grandmother and cheer her up! That's something you can control! You can exercise to work off some of your anxiety. That's something you can control. Only think about what you can honestly do something about... and you will begin to see the other things have less and less importance.
So take control and get you plane back up into the clouds... Where your head should be during an exciting time like 'Getting Married'!
Good luck to you!

Look BATMAN!!!!!(you turn your head i run away and hide under my bed) lol joking, try some exercise, sports, meditation and yoga. take all your problems and talk about it with your friends family and finance it actually helps. keep a list of what you look forward to in your pocket or start writing in a diary. i highly recommend meditation because of your stress.
i'm not a Psychologists

A close friend of mine had O c d and you have all my sympathy ; because its not easy to live with this disease every day ; but right now you should contact your doctor so he can make some adjustment with your medication ; due to the stress you are under ; and he will make a follow up to assure you that your stress and anxiety is under control

I am not a psychologist, but man, seems like you need a chill pill. Take some yoga classes/ meditate/ worrying about stuff is normal, but don't take it over the edge. Seems you know that already.
Relax,
and Good Luck!

Life is just in a tough spot at the moment. And I think because of that your OCD is kicking in at a higher rate now. My best suggestion is to just take a minuet and calm down. You've got too much stress. With your OCD, when you catch it just stop yourself and move on to another subject or thing to do so it doesn't control your life. Just slow down and take it day by day getting married is a great experience. And I'll say it one more time because this is all you can do. Calm down, slow down, enjoy the time you have. Hope this helps.

Sincerely, Zach


Also, just to let everyone know. No I an not a psychologists or psychiatrist. Just someone who does a good job with helping people with lifes problems.

STOP!!! BREADTH!!! RELAX!!!

take a deep breath.it seems like you got anxiety....are you having nervous about getting married are you are starting to have second thought cause it seems so..try to talk to a professional so she/ he can go with you step by step through this...also are you taking marriage counseling?..if not you should that is highly recommended

hope things work out for you for the best try to take an hr of your day and look up to the sky watch the clouds...a good way of relaxing is watching fishes its also a type of therapy to keep you relax and calm

all the best for you sweety Bless!!! Peace and Love!!!




OH!! by the way do you know that worring leans on to alot of sickness like high bllod pressure stress and even cancer....so be carefull