Could my husband be gay? He always wants to be with his friends and gets upset when I talk about them.

I have heard rumors from sooooo many people that my husband could be living on the down low. They say he got like that when he went to the Army. All I know is that he recently got a car and he barely will let me drive it...but he lets his friend drive it. When we first got together (3 years ago) he had a mole or something on his 'man tool" but it went away. Me being naive at the time, I slept with him anyway and now my pap smears keep coming back abnormal. They say it isn't hpv but it keeps coming back abnormal. I have had 2 kids since then and no hiv or hpv. I did have trichomonaisis at one point.

Anyway, he is always with his friends, has been rumored to be gay, and has two friends that are known to be gay. He says that he has no control over their behavior and that he is not doing what they do if they are gay...but why would people be calling him gay too? Oh we have gone as long as 2 months without having sex and he is not attractive to me anymore (we are separated). I am not ugly or out of shape at all and can get a man easily. So could he be gay or something.

Also he loves to touch my butt hole during sex. Is that normal???

Yes we are separated based on the fact that he is abusive. He once beat me up because I talked about one of his gay friends.

No so on the down low girlfriend...although some straight men do like a little butt hole stimulation. Trich is a STD and rumors at times can be just that. However, straight men do not care to be in the company of gay men all time like that. Further, allowing his "friend" to drive his new whip and not his wife is suspect. It's good that you decided to move on.
Best Wishes!

its been estimated that 1 out of 5 american men are gay or bisexual. the study was mostly from surveys taken from white males.

men love butt holes whether gay or straight.
they like cavities. thank goodness the ears are too small, or iam sure it would be a target also.

Trichomoniasis isn't passed male to male. It can be passed male to female and female to female but it's not passed male to male.

he could swing both ways.

ok you are incredibly immature for even thinking that he's gay, hello, if you're seperated, then you obviously must've done something to piss him off, just like asking this question.

just cut your losses honey, there's no competition when it comes to another man....... move on and get yourself tested again...goodluck

he maybe or be maybe bisexual.

It sure sounds like he is I think if I was you I would leave his crazy *** alone before you get something much worse.

Most straight men will not deal with a gay man on that level.

OMG thats totally insane. But he very well could be gay...I just found out my ex that I dated in highschool messed around with some guy. That is sooooo gross, thank god I didn't marry him ew ew ew. LOL.

WOW! I would find that seems suspicious. But, knowing he gave you a disease, why are you still with him?

I'd be scared to stay married to a man like your husband...for my health and for many other reasons. He does sound gayish to me. I mean, you've been married for only 3 years and to go 2 months without any sex? My husband's in his early 50's, we've been married a lot longer than 3 years, and we've never gone that long without sex. I don't know of any straight man who hangs out with gay men or whose friends are all gay, either. You really need to ask him to tell you the truth; you deserve to know and he needs to be truthful not only to you, but to himself.