Am I Torturing My Boyfriend!!!!!!!!!!!!?

i have a boyfriend but i am still a teenager and i don't want to have sex because i feel there are just too many risks (ex. pregnancy, HIV, AIDS)

about our relationship-------

he is Black and i am Iranian (Persian)

he has actually helped me quite alot because i have just moved to the hood in nyc and he has helped me get comfortable there (i have never lived in a hood before)

now whenever my boyfriend comes or i go out with him i have to admit that i tend to dress pretty sexy and be flirty with him

i just love the attention he gives me

also i lie on top of him alot and we makeout while he's touching my *** usually and we play wrestle ALOT

hes always uhh complimenting me on my "assets"..........u kno like he says im "thick"

but i was wondering am i making it harder (no pun attended lol) for him to go without sex or would it be more like a better than nothing sort of thing for him

I've always hated women like you! You are killing this poor man. That would kill me.

With that said, you shouldn't rush into anything that you don't feel comfortable with. If you are genuinely concerned with STD's, pregnancy, etc., then you should talk to him about it and maybe get tested together before you have sex.

As for the pregnancy, there are many effective birth control products out there. But ask yourself these questions - even if I used birth control, should I get pregnant, could I raise a baby? Would I be comfortable raising a baby with him as the father?

If you feel horrible about those answers then you should hold off on sex. But at the very least tell him why you want to wait, he may understand.

I am so glad to hear someone is not giving in to sexual desires. Continue to refrain from sex, but also keep his hands out of your cookie jar.

You arent torturing him, trust me, he is enjoying this 100%. I wish a girl would do this for me, I would not consider this torture at all.

its good that u are flirty it might make it easyer if he truely cares about u he can go without sex and will be willing to wait

i bet he will make moves on you. Say you want ot be friends and that is all. I think that is all u want by the sounds of it. When you meet that special person you will have no second thoughts.