All you singles there - what would you do if you faced this kind of situation in your love life.?

Your steady partner meets with an accident, and becomes paralyzed in her lower limbs OR has HIV (not her fault assuming) - now HIV is different from AIDS and HIV patients do live a normal life.

When you fell in love with that person, you were supposed to be committed for life. Is there anyone who would still like to stick to that commitment, given such circumstances. How would you tell your conscience that I need to ignore this person in future, even though there was a time when I could not live without him/her.

Before some people run out of their comic timing, it's a hypothetical question only to gather opinions nothing to do with my personal life

Thats when unconditional love comes knocking on you door. Sometimes its hard to stick in a relationship when there is a major flaw...but when you do stick... the person that you didn't let go of...well love you even more.

But its really hard when faced in the real actual thing. Anyone can say, sure i'll stick by you... but fulfilling it would be hard.

Wouldn't it be nice that everytime you would wake up, you would always know that there is that special person right beside you?

Loving someone is not hard to do. Accepting who that person is up to you. Once you commit to person, she/he is giving you her/his heart and its in your hands wether your going to crush it or take care of it.

Because you don't want to mess with regret.

i would stay with that person if i love them... If love doesn't want u to stay with that person then your love for them is not real.

I would have to say I would base it on how much I truly loved this person. I think this would make me find out really fast just how much. I would most likely try and help them as much as I good and be there for them, as long as I thought they'd be there for me if it were reversed.

It all depends on yourself....Ask yourself - "How much do I love this person..."

as far as its concerned to me,i would surely love the person still....bcoz when u loved her before accdent and needed each others support..,dont u think u should support her during critical times???and keep up ur real love...??leaving her will only leave u without happiness in later life and wont it look selfish???

if it was someone i loved then i would stick with them thru it, regardless of if they could do the same in return

that is totally a personal queston you would have to ask yourself hypothetically...like if i was missing an arm could i still find love..i supose someone out there could look past it..
HIV i dont personally think i could unless i had it too already ....paralyzed too.. you'd have to be emotionally and physically strong but if you trully loved that person maybe...

This is a good fair question to ask.First of all,if I were the person inflicted with such misfortune,I believe my outlook on life would change me as a person.Hopefully I would seek a higher more spiritual way of living in the eyes of tragedy.However,unless you're there you won't really know.I know one guy whose wife bacame ill with terminal cancer and she became extremely abusive to him.Although he has a huge heart,he was beaten down pretty severely emotionally.I saw him change and when he divorced her ( yes,with all the guilt,etc.) ,he did'nt even look like the man she had married.She crushed him in all her pain and fear.If it destroys you to stay with them,would'nt it be self destructive?And I mean this guy stayed with her for years after she found out and begin deterioratng physically...He did'nt just bail at the first sign of illness.Also,look at Christofer Reeves wife,she cared for him until he died-then she died soon after. So,in reality,you'd want to do the right thing,but it's not always clear until you get there.I don't think you're wrong to decline staying.Maybe people will judge you ,but don't people always find something to judge you about anyway.Too sad it is human nature.

If you loved this person unconditionaly to begin with and something of that nature happened, yes it would be a hard situation to accept but if you really really loved that person then staying with them wouldn't feel like a burden to you (not saying you but in general). Look at it this way, what if it was your mom? Would you stop loving her because something like that happened? Sure, we all are afraid of what we don't know. But that doesn't mean just give up and walk away. Would you want someone to do that to you? If your conscience is telling you that you need to ignore this person then you probably weren't really in love. True love can see no faults. If it was love, your conscience would be saying stay and do everything you can to make the other person happy and help them to accept what has happened to them, because as hard as it may be for you, imagine how hard it is for them... to be paralyzed or HIV positive. That is something they will live with daily and can't run away from. How would they feel after that happened only to have another blow because the person they were seeing and who supposedly loved them wasn't man/woman enough to stick it out? Just my opinion:)

Condoms work. The triple cocktail makes HIV far less infectious even with unprotected sex. What's the problem here?

As far as a debilitating injury is concerned... do they become a different person because of their injury? If not, stay... if their personality changes in a negative way, make your own choice - but make it about the character of the person you're with, not about your own needs.

Anyone who truly cares for the other person would stay true to them unless they are pushed away. Anyone who is only interested in servicing their own shallow needs and fears will run for the hills.

Sorry - but it's not a hard question - sometimes the truth makes us uncomfortable.


JH

like hellllllllllllllllllllllo u say u love her if ur u dint care if she sick or what ....becuz i suppose u say I LOVE HER ?????