If you were a 22 yr. old single living w/ HIV, at what pt. in a dating relationship should u reveal ur staus??

My Ethics class is going to talk about it and i just need some opinions with reasoning behind it. Thanks!

I am sure we have all heard stories in the media of men and women being charged for not telling sex partners that they are HIV-positive.

If I am HIV-positive and I just want to have a one-night stand and that person consents, we use a condom and we both get a need fulfilled, am I any more obligated to tell him or her my status than they are to tell me that they have herpes or some other STD?

You may be liable (legally and morally) if you knowingly put a sexual partner at risk for HIV, so I agree with abetterfate's answer, once you meet someone you are interested in, tell him/her before sex becomes a possibility.

The only correct ETHICAL answer is as soon as possible. You can probably wait right up until sex is eminent, but it should be revealed immediately. It is wrong to put another at risk without their knowledge

before feelings get involved, its only fair to the other person and yourself.

After the 1st date or 2. That person has the right to know. Maybe even before the date. If the date is ok with it, good, if not the date is over before it starts.

I would reveal it before the first date. I have dated someone who didn't tell me until the third date. I was so mad at him for not telling me that. I felt like he had unnecessarily put me in danger of getting it.

I would say definitely before the chance to spread it to them comes up, so if they want to risk it, the choice is theirs rather than yours. before that you cannot harm another person. If they choose to accept the risk and get it, then it is their fault and they cannot be mad. If you spread it to them and they find out without you telling them, they will be mad, to say the least

its not right that you dont tell the person, if you plan on having any kind of intimate relationship. not to mention thats its illegal in some states not to tell the person before you have sex,(some have been charged with attempted murder for not revealing thier KNOWN HIV status to their partner before consenting to sex).

So I would say tell them before you become intimate!

Certainly before sex becomes a possibility.

A lot would depend on the person you were dating - there are still very many silly misconceptions about how AIDS is transmitted. Maybe begin with a discussion about AIDS in general to test the waters of how they think about it.

I am assuming this is hypothetical.

I am sorry that the first couple of answers are from morons.
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When your start having actual contact with one another. kissing sex things to that nature..............And if you want to get in a relationship with that person then he should tell them what's going on and not get his heart broken we he do decide to tell his partner. But knowledge is power

First, your age has nothing to do with it. ANYONE who is HIV+ must tell any partner with whom he thinks he may end up having sex. If he is with someone who is obviously interested in a more serious relationship, then he must divulge his HIV status as soon as possible, regardless whether or when they may have sex.
It would be humanely unthinkable to allow another person to become sincerely romantically involved with you, and then tell him you are HIV+. The decision whether he will be willing to continue with the relationship must be decided before the emotions become too strong.

Basically before things got to a "serious" stage. If it's nothing more than sharing a cup of coffee and light talk, fine, but once dating would progress to a stage in which closer physical intimacy is being considered, one should disclose one's status.

there is a very good site to watch www.garynull.com that could open the door to a better understanding of this horrible disease and then the subject of your / there affliction could come up.It is true some states have laws protecting people from knowingly spreading this disease around, and the punishment can be very sever, there intention is that you die while incarcerated so the risk of you spreading further is diminished. I feel it is our moral duty to inform the person if sex is going to take place, at least then that person can then make a conscious decision to continue and take every precaution possible, there is also the other side of the coin, with the fear and social stigma associated with this disease people are afarid to reveal it. because they will become a social out cast. I urge you to watch this video any one reading this answer it goes for you too, people are being mislead by the big drug companies, oh just watch it, it speaks for itself. maybe the professor would like to share it with the class please ask him,

Pretty early on, before ANY intimate contact so they're not put at risk , and can safely shun you.

Well in theory the easiest way to go about it is to be upfront and date someone who also has HIV.

Barring that, it should be told after you know you want to be with this person, but before you have sex. That way the person has a vested interest, and isn't as likely to totally disregard you and stop getting to know you based on your status alone.

Before first date. The reason being self preservation: it's too emotionally damaging to get rejected over and over once into a relationship. You are more self protected to only date people who are ok with this information.

if u already started dating that means u both have some mutual feelings 4 each other as far as wanting 2 enjoy each other's company. at the first hint that u feel that it's going 2 escalate to the next level, whether it b a kiss or ny other form of physical sexual interaction, u should let the other person know right there n then. how u say it is up 2 u. u have 2 try 2 b tactful and b ready 4 rejection as ignorance regarding these situations is ridiculous given all the facts about transmission and so forth. in my experience w/relationships period it's better 2 put all the cards out on the table asap.there going to come out sooner or later anyway.

as things get closer, it is something that needs to be revealed.

Before sex is considered/

I think you sould the tell the person right off, so you can see where they stand.

The only time anyone can do anything is "now". If you waited a day, a week, a month, etc., when that time came it would still be the in the "now" (philisophically speaking). I hope you can catch this concept. Discretion is involved. When the appropriate time comes, and the set and setting is right, a person would be more comfortable in revealing HIV status.
Easy does it but do it.

I think you should have a biohazard tattoo on your forehead if you are HIV positive so everyone is warned of the risk. This gets rid of the embarassing need to " reveal" your status to others and the ethical considerations of when you should..

I would usually say it would depend on the nature of the relationship, but in this case I don't think that applies. In my opinion, fairly soon. That's when I tell someone the fact that I'm trans and pre-op, so I'd likely do the same with something else that big.

I wouldn't tell anyone if I had AIDS. I only have a short time on the earth, and what happens when I am gone is none of my concern. I would enjoy the time I had left...

Write it in lipstick on his mirror so he can read it in the morning when he wakes up.